When there is harmony in the home, there will be order in the nation. When there is order in the nation, there will be peace in this world.-baba
Love is the factor that unites a man and a woman in marriage. It is not an obligation; it is an expression of our inner feelings. When you are in love, there is no duality. For love to be pure and everlasting, we must clear the weeds of ego, greed, selfishness and suspicion. If we succeed in loving thus, our married life will never develop any problems and we will never have troubles.
In most divorces, the main cause of rift has been misunderstanding and lack of commitment among partners. When the people involved have not completely understood each other and enter into a relationship, storms will brew after a short time. Just like their impulsive marriage, their behavior will also be impulsive which could lead to fights and heated arguments if the partner is not of an understanding nature.
Lack of commitment is a major issue. If partners think of marriage as a convenience based platform, they will not be fully and completely dedicated to the partner which would mean that they will go wayward if they are given a chance, resulting in divorce or separation. A marriage should not be considered as an object that can be bought as and when one likes from a market. A marriage involves two humans with emotions, [humans must not be treated like a robot], sometimes, children [who will be emotionally disturbed if their habitat is questioned] and society. All these factors must be carefully considered before jumping into a relationship and later declaring it to be most stupid action ever done.
Love is an emotion felt deep in the heart. At first good looks and infatuation may have been the cause, but later on if the partners have deep understanding and unselfish care for each other, the relationship develops into a strong bond and will stay forever which no flirt or scandal can break. You can feel your love surge when you are away from your partner. Such love should be developed where the partners are completely interdependent and trust each other fully.
True love between partners will spread and infect the children also who will be nurtured in this lovely atmosphere. They in turn will be responsible partners and parents, thus helping society to be more or less civilized. But during these modern days, commitment, true love and unselfish behavior seems to have vanished thus causing divorces and rifts in relationships and marriages and thereby causing mental stress to the people involved.
Try to adjust and resolve any problems because life is meant to enjoyed, not to be wasted by dwelling over problems present or past. Love yourself, your lover, your children, your friends and relatives. Forget grudges of past, because nobody is perfect including you and adjust. Start to love this very moment, it is still not too late.